What is Parenting Coaching and Support?
There are lots of definitions of coaching. Here are just a few:
- “Coaching is the art of facilitating the development, learning and performance of another.” (Myles Downey)
- “You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself.”(Galileo)
- “Coaching is a conversation where someone feels heard and knows something at the end they did not know at the beginning.” (Claire Pedrick)
Parenting can be a difficult job. Sometimes there are great times with our children when things are going well and all feels good. Sometimes when our children are at different developmental stages they can suddenly throw up challenges and problems that mean we have to change our parenting style or approach. This is not easy which is why some parenting coaching and support can be a useful place to discuss the difficulties, from a parent’s perspective. As a coach and someone with considerable experience in working with children, adolescents and families/carers, I can focus on the conversation that you want to have. The development of a trusting relationship and good rapport between us is critical to the success of our relationship.
Coaching is a time limited process. This ensures that the conversation has a purpose and doesn’t just settle into a nice to have, comfortable experience. Often six sessions will be offered and if other goals are later identified as the sessions draw to a close, re contracting between us, the coach and parent, can take place.
It is important for parents to know that the sessions will be confidential and we will discuss this right at the start. There are numerous coaching approaches and I will tell you about some of these and will use a range of them in our sessions.
The key approach I use is to remain silent and truly listen to you the parent, to hear exactly what the issues are for you and how they affect you and your child. The other key coaching approach I use is to ensure that a parenting coaching session is a conversation with a purpose, not just a chat or reflective space with no actions/outcomes that you want to achieve
I hold the belief that we all have innate potential and are hugely resourceful, and that we all have immense potential. Enabling you to have your own insights is the most useful approach for any parent.
By offering parents the space to talk and reflect on issues and difficulties, plus by offering questions and constructive challenge, this will support you to develop actions and make changes that are right for you.
The structure of a coaching session follows a set process in order that it can be useful for a parent.
I use a model called the TGROW process to support the conversation:
T Topic What do you want to talk about?
G Goal What do you want from this conversation?
R Reality What is really happening now?
O Options What could you do?
W Will What will you do?
Mandy offers specialist parents’ support and coaching services which can include:
- Initial consultation for parent(s)/ carer(s) of children & adolescents with developmental or mental health issues to establish what next steps might suit your situation best. This may include signposting to appropriate medical/ therapeutic professionals, if appropriate
- General Behaviour/Developmental Issues
- Autistic Spectrum Disorder including Asperger’s
- Attention Deficit Conditions
- Relationship Issues including family conflict and breakdown
If, after the initial consultation” session we agree coaching is going to be useful for you, and you feel that the relationship “chemistry” is conducive to making positive changes, Mandy offers a package of six one hour sessions, spread out over an agreed period.
Review of the goals of coaching takes place at each session to check that the focus of our time together is the right one for you, and the evolving goals are the right ones too.
Coaching is very different to a therapeutic or mentoring relationship. By me offering you a place to reflect, by asking you questions about the challenges for you as a parent, these are there to elicit a deeper understanding for you and to set actions/changes that are right for you.
Parenting Coaching is a ‘we’ experience, where we think together about what we need to do, how we are going to do it, and how you will meet the goals you have set yourself. Having some space to think about how to parent our children in difficult times is not something we often do, but is essential in helping us to help them, and feel we are doing the best job we can with, and for, them.
Qualifications and Experience
I am a qualified Coach Practitioner and have a private practice working with people on a variety of areas such as leadership development and personal and life coaching, work within the NHS and via the Kent, Surrey and Sussex Leadership Collaborative as an Executive Coach. I am also a pool member for NHS IMAS.
Prior roles and Relevant Contributing Experience
I have recently retired as an NHS Director of Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) and was a School Governor for over six years.
Prior to moving into management roles, I worked for many years as a Registered Mental Nurse (RMN) and as a specialist RMN, working with children, adolescents and families.
I also qualified as a play therapist and a systemic couple and family therapist during my clinical career.
I undertake regular supervision with an experienced supervisor as stipulated by the EMCC supervision standards framework. I undertake frequent Continuing Professional Development (CPD) via the Kent, Surrey & Sussex NHS Leadership Collaborative.
Over the last two years I have attended training and workshops on:
- Great Beginnings in Coaching Conversations
- Great Middles in Coaching Conversations
- Electric Coaching and the Skilled Helper Framework
- Ethical Awareness; Making A Difference With Our Difference
- Making A Difference, One Conversation At A Time
I am a qualified Coach Practitioner-accredited training by the EMCC.
I am an Associate Member of the EMCC and adhere to their Global Code of Ethics.
I am a Fellow of The Institute of Leadership and Management.
I am a member of NHS IMAS.
I am available in Guildford on Mondays to Thursdays.
£125:00 60 minute Consultation Session
£125:00 60 minute Coaching Session
(this fee includes email support between sessions).
Please note: Fees will always be agreed with you prior to any meeting.
On requesting an appointment via our online booking system, Mandy may well call you to confirm details before you meet. This initial telephone discussion of up to 10 minutes is free of charge, and is designed to confirm that it is indeed appropriate to proceed to a full consultation and is not designed to replace a consultation.
Payment for the first session should be on the day in cash.
Once regular sessions have been arranged payment can be by cash or bank transfer prior to the session.
After a session has been booked it is chargeable, unless cancelled with one week’s notice.